Your intuition is more than just a hunch, it is your superpower!

Every time new and interesting opportunities knock on ‘Anne’s’ door she sensibly ignores them. Or so she tells herself. A woman her age shouldn’t be acting on gut instinct. She needs to demonstrate solid evidence for why she makes decisions the way she does, not some airy fairy arty farty woowoo superpower nonsense, doesn’t she? Her hard nosed decision making processes have largely worked for her this long she thinks. Until doubt creeps in and she again questions herself. Did I make the right decision? As doubt creeps in, anxiety wraps its arms around her…

For goodness sake she should be able to make decisions quickly and not stuff people around. What on earth is wrong with her? Lately she finds herself second guessing herself to the point of not getting things done. Her resentment toward others who seem to move through life without having to think of anyone else is pervasive. Exacerbated by her sense of ignoring a niggling feeling that she can’t put her finger on, her thoughts spiral. Who does she think she is? Telling her staff to stop procrastinating and get on with it when she can’t do it herself. She tells herself that truth be known, she would have preferred to live a different life. And she would have if she hadn’t of had so many other pressing priorities and responsibilities. But of course that’s been her lot in life she sighs. Ignoring her own instincts and needs and looking after everyone else first. Making sure everyone else is happy and that their needs are put first and foremost above and beyond her own. That’s been her life story. She does all she can to quell that little voice inside, still silently screaming “what about me?” “if only…”

‘Anne’ finds herself questioning her life choices more often than not. Overcome with sadness and feeling like a victim of life’s demands ‘Anne’ ponders why me??

By ignoring her gut feelings and putting herself last, saying yes when she wanted to say no, ‘Anne’ has unconsciously devalued herself. Sadly she probably thought she was doing the right thing – for everyone else that is. But at what cost? Can you imagine how different ‘Anne’s’ life would have been had she of known how to listen to her gut instincts, tune in to her intuitive intelligence and trust herself? Maybe you’ve felt like ‘Anne’?

Rather than feeling like a blindfolded passenger in her own life, had ‘Anne’ known better, she could have enjoyed the liberation of sitting in the drivers seat. By listening to her intuition and acting accordingly, she could have experienced true empowerment and taken responsibility for her life choices versus allowing fear to dictate and determine her life. Poor ‘Anne’ –  I wish she had of coming to see me sooner.

Does this resonate with you? Do you still ignore your own intuition? When we live life on ‘autopilot’ we block out our intuition.The scary thing is, it’s easy to do. Geez I used to! And it got me into all sorts of trouble. I remember getting into a car as a naive 14 year old with my gut instinct screaming at me not to do it. But I ignored it. And why? Well because I was the youngest passenger, and everyone else insisted it was a great idea that would save me having to pay a bus fare for the 4 hour trip home.But guess what happened? We were in a freak accident, whereby the vehicle left the road, rolled down an embankment and I was thrown out of the window. Out of 5 people in the vehicle, I was the only person injured. I suffered spine injuries, a broken leg and ankle, smashed elbow and gravel rash. I missed almost a whole term of school and to this day don’t know how I survived.

The worst part of it was that I allowed fear to overrule my decision. Fear of sounding like an idiot about having a gut feeling. Fear of sounding foolish around my older friends.Forty years later, that accident remains the most powerful example of me ignoring my intuitive intelligence. I do all I can to tune into it now!!!

Look, let’s face it: if fear is a familiar filter, then you will be far more inclined to act from fear than not. Awful thing is, it can be a fear of anything – things not working out, fear of people laughing at or not liking us, fear of judgment and exclusion, the list goes on. All of this fearful thinking is powerful motivation to block out your intuitive intelligence. But here’s the thing, unless it’s a fear for personal safety, do you know what most fear is? It’s this:

Fear is False Evidence Appearing Real

I speak from personal and professional experience when I say the joy of what life can be like when we open up to our intuitive intelligence, far outweighs the fear of false evidence appearing real! And the best part is it’s never to late to learn how to tune in to your intuition.

So if you have turned down the volume on your intuition and fear is riding shotgun, I want to you to take the following 3 steps and reclaim your superpower:


Step 1: Give yourself permission to listen to your intuition. How does it

communicate with you? Is it a gut feeling that’s a bit difficult to describe? Or is it a

tingling in your hands? Listen out for it, as it’s different for everyone. If you don’t

know how your super power is trying to get your attention you might miss it!


Step 2: Pay attention to your intuition and allow it to guide you to take action. And

choosing to not take action, is still of course action. It could be little things like

driving to work and getting a nudge to go in a different direction. What’s the worst

thing that could happen? Who knows you may divert an accident by going a

different way? What I do know is that the more you listen to your intuition, your self

doubt will fade as your trust increases, anxiety will decrease as you believe more i

yourself and you will put a stop to procrastination. By the way,  for more tips see my

TEDxDarwin talk The vaccination for procrastination.


Step 3: Visualise and Imagine what it would be like to flip things around. Imagine

taking the blindfold off and sitting in the driver’s seat of your life. What would that

feel like? Take some time to think about this. Imagine what life could be like if you

were able to feel liberated from how you’re feeling now. What would you do more

of? And what would you do less of? Create a movie in your mind’s eye of what it will

be like to tune into your intuitive intelligence, your superpower! Imagine taking snap

shots of this movie and storing them for future reference.

PS: If you feel like you slip back into F.E.A.R, simply cycle back to Step 1 and Rinse

and Repeat

As I said earlier, the joy of what comes when we open up to our intuitive intelligence far outweighs the fear of what if! And the best part is it’s never to late to learn how to tune in to your intuition. And remember

Your Fear is 100% dependent on you

What do you think about this post? Did it strike a chord within you? What would change if you trusted your intuition more? Comment below and let me know what you think – one way or another

Why must self care come first for me?

Why must self care come first for me?

Because the opposite to self care is self neglect. And trust me, I’ve lived in both worlds and know full well which one I prefer. This topic is near and dear to my heart because for decades I neglected myself to the point of emotional self harm. And trust me, it ain’t pretty, or easy to recover from.

Growing up being told to put yourself last, always consider others first, make sure that everyone else is happy even if it’s to your detriment was something most baby boomers were taught. In some respects I can see the value in selfless behaviour. But not if it means you pay a higher cost for it. It is NOT noble to be a martyr and I dare say if we could speak to martyrs today, they would agree. To thrive and not just survive in this world we must take good care of ourselves, or at the least, better care of ourselves.

I look at our three adult children and while I can see many good morals, ethics and values we have instilled in them, I see the flaws as well. They didn’t grow up seeing their parents well rested and relaxed. They have seen us both work ourselves into the ground. And for what? To have the security of a roof over our heads and a few creature comforts. But at what cost? We lost many opportunities to build happy memories as we tried to build a better life. A better life where we had a house to call home and some stuff to fill it with. Neither my husband or I were equipped to be emotionally stable parents. Shit, we were still kids ourselves trying to figure out how to live as grown ups while raising babies.

Now that we are grandparents we see it all so differently. If we could of have stopped, slowed down, had more fun, lightened up and loved ourselves more, stopped worrying about money and started living for the moment our lives would have been very different. But it is was it is. And all we can hope for is that our kids can teach their kids better ways.

Our lives are nothing but opportunities to live, learn and leave our mark on the world. And that’s why self care must come first for me. The more I take better care of me, the better I feel about myself. The better I feel about myself, the better I am able to love and serve. And the better I am able to love and serve the better my world is.

Don’t get me wrong though! I still suck at self care. I still have to force myself to give myself permission to rest even though I know I have a chronic illness. I still feel guilty for stopping and doing ‘nothing’. I still flinch when I get to breaking point of weariness and wonder how I let that happen all over again.

And then I stop and remind myself of how far I have come. It’s only 7 years since I faced death. Recovering from chronic neglect and living with chronic illness hasn’t been easy. But every day I strive to find something to be grateful for. Even on those days when I feel like I just want to give up, I give thanks for the many blessings in my life, and continue to give myself permission to get better at self care.

Feel free to steal this quote and make it your mantra. And if you would like to learn more about self care, go check out our upcoming Self Care Quest starting 19th September. We’ve also got a free webinar happening Sunday 4th September 8pm AEST. Hit me up if you’d like the link to join us!

I give myself full permission to get better at self care



Self Care Quest

If you enjoyed this blog, you will want to find out more about our upcoming Self Care Quest.

We are taking applications now as there are limited spaces.  Join us on a free webinar Sunday 4th September 8pm AEST to hear all about it and have a chance to sit in the hot seat!

When are you going to stop beating yourself up?

I am so dumb! I’m never going to be promoted.

I am so ugly! No one will ever want to love me.

I am so silly! How could my boss take my ideas seriously?

I are so fat! I’m never going to look good in a bikini on the beach.

Why is everyone else so happy and I’m not?

Is this all life is about? Feeling fat and miserable?

Why me?

Ever had these kind of silent war games going on in your head? Around and around and around they go like a stuck record. Day in day out, the constant whining of your negative self talk can become so ingrained it becomes your normal. I’m guessing you know exactly what I’m talking about otherwise why would you be reading this blog? I’m also guessing that you’re are very interested in knowing if it’s even possible to stop beating yourself up right?

Well it is, and I am going to tell you exactly how to do that. Before we get started, feel free to make yourself comfortable and put your phone on silent.Get ready to take notes while we change the record playing in your head.

When I first started out back in 2009 I used to teach my clients to consider their negative self talk as a radio station and to take notice of whether it was a station worth listening to. This way  they could learn to listen to their negative self talk and make choices what to do about it. Choices such as is it worth listening to? And if not to take action. Action like fine tune it, turn the volume down, or turn the damn thing off. Well dear reader, over the years I’ve tweaked my approach to this.For very good reasons. I still believe negative self talk is worth listening to from a learning perspective and in fact believe the more we can pay attention to it the more we can learn from it. But turning it off without learning the message is a missed opportunity. So I ask you, when was the last time you listened to your negative self talk? Remember the key word here is listened.

When was the last time you questioned this negative self talk?

My old swami used to say “observe and don’t participate in the monkey mind”. Almost 23 years later I realise that there are layers to this lesson. You see listening to your negative self talk requires you to stop joining the conversation with it. And instead have an enquiring mind. Now back to the lessons in the layers. Imagine these layers are stepping stones to help you understand what’s causing you to beat yourself up. Think of this like an emotional fitness workout. Follow these 5 stepping stones to strengthen your muscle memory and stop beating yourself up:

Step Stone One: Give yourself permission to observe your negative self talk. Just do that and in and of itself