How did I get to this point?
I don’t even know who I am anymore!
I look around and life seems to be passing me by.
There always seems to be someone else or some other thing that needs my
attention and I never seem to get back to answering these questions.
Until the next melt down…
When I once again question why am I constantly feeling like a passenger in my own
Why am I so damn hard on myself?
Why why why???
Sound familiar? Have you ever felt devoid of your own sense of identity? Feeling like you’re constantly running on empty is a red flag for burnout. And trust me, burnout ain’t pretty. Been there done that, and lived to pay the price. Burnout is a hard place to come back from. In fact after burnout, it can take years to return to a sense of what once was, and for many of us we don’t even achieve that. So if those tell tale signs are nagging you now, it’s time to plug that crap right up! Get on the front foot of reclaiming your life and being kind to you. Yes that’s right – I said be kind to you. Just like you’re kind to everyone else in your life, I’m now suggesting you give yourself permission to reclaim your life, take your power back and attend to self care. Now!!!
And yep, I hear you, it’s just not that easy it it? All of the realities of: I don’t have time, the kids need me, work needs me, my elderly parents need me, my Board needs me, vulnerable strangers need me…. And the list goes on right? Well like I said, I’ve been through the wringer with putting everyone else first and neglecting myself and it ain’t pretty. I know how tough this can be. I get it!! In fact, right now, in this very moment of writing, I am having to take this exact same medicine! Yep you heard that right. It’s been a tough time of late and I too need reminders.
So I’ve put together these 5 easy steps for you to put into action
to reclaim YOUR life now. Remember to be kind to yourself and
start with Step 1 – it’s the most important!
Step 1: Give yourself permission to get better at Self Care
Step 2: Learn to say no before you say yes to doing something for someone else. Now if
you’re a chronic people pleaser this will feel like you’re poking yourself in the eye with a sharp
stick. So come up with some creative ways of saying no, like:
“let me think about that and I will get back to you”
“I’m full up at the moment”
“I’d be happy to help once I climb over the mountain of jobs in front of me”
Step 3: Carve out 5 minutes 3 times a day to stop and consciously breathe. Simply keep your
attention on your breathing. Notice if your breathe is deep or shallow. If it’s shallow practice the
Put your tongue on the roof of your mouth and breathe in for the count of 4, hold for the count of 7 and release for the count of 8. Do this for at least 60 seconds and work up to 3 minutes if possible.
Step 4: Be kind to yourself. Find something nice to say to yourself every morning, noon and
night. Let’s face it, we spend more time talking to ourselves then anyone else. Why not make it
Step 5: Grow your attitude of gratitude. The road out of resentment is gratitude so start
acknowledging what you’re grateful for and tell others what you appreciate in them. Do you
know you reduce stress levels by 25% simply by writing down 3 – 5 things you are grateful for?
Practice these 5 steps for 30 days.
Journal your experiences and create new neural pathways in your brain.
Resist the need to sabotage yourself and reclaim your life right now!
You are so worth it!